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The Formula for Success is Way Easier Than You Could Imagine

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C > E
Results vs. Reasons

Everyone write that down.  Then take a pen and make a big arrow from the E to the C, to illustrate that you are living at cause rather than effect.

What this means is cause is bigger and greater than effect.  Most of us find that we are living at the EFFECT of others. Our bosses, friends, family, people past, present and future! We blame them or hold them responsible for our life experiences.

Once we realize that, if we ask ourselves in EVERY situation, “How am I at cause for what is occurring in my life?” there will be a tremendous mindset shift.  Take a moment when you ask yourself the question and the answer will come. And the empowering feeling you feel when you realize that you can change what you are doing, basically creating your experience, and not letting yourself be at the effect of others!

So….take the next week.  When a situation comes up that doesn’t feel congruent, ask yourself how you are at cause for the event.   See if doing this changes how you view, react and handle the situation. See, hear and feel your desired outcome and put your thoughts and energy in that direction, taking responsibility for all the steps to get there!

Try this for a week… then another week… then another…..

Ways to Make People More Comfortable and to Build Rapport

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Have you ever noticed, when people are like each other, they LIKE each other?   Rapport is building that layer of responsiveness between 2 people.   It doesn’t mean automatic liking, but it definitely gives you the feel of liking.

Here are some  ways to make people more comfortable and to build rapport:

Notice their posture, gestures, breathing and facial expressions.  Be subtle but begin doing what they are doing, perhaps adopt their posture, their gestures, angle of their head, arm positions.   You can match tone of voice, volume and tempo.   Notice their words, their delivery and see if you can match.

At first, just pick 1 or 2 elements and give it a go.  Again, subtlety is key here, if they are throwing their arms around, perhaps pick something else.   You will notice the change in how you are being received, it is truly remarkable.

Meeting people in their model of the world builds trust, lessens inherent suspicion, and our brains are wired to like people who are like ourselves!